Wednesday, January 28, 2009

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Okay, before everybody starts asking, no, I am not pregnant. I know there are those of you out there that think I will forever be either pregnant or carting around a newborn but you are wrong, for once. I am going to rant for a minute, though. I only post this because one of my dear friends is pregnant and sometimes I get tired of the comments. She already has 5 boys and will be perfectly happy having another one. She is not "TRYING" for a girl and she and her husband will more than likely have more children after this one. I think this is great. I am only saying this for people who need to get over the fact that some people decide and want to have a large family. Even if not consciously decided in advance to have a large family this does not give the right for people to make comments about the number of children anybody has. I am at times shocked, irritated and sometimes absolutely horrified at some of the rude comments sometimes even seemly innocent comments that some people seem to think is their job or duty to make. Here it is in black and white. I am busy. I do have my hands full and, yes, I know how babies are made and different ways to try and prevent having more babies, but that does not mean I will alter the size of my family based on what someone, especially a stranger, tells me. I have four wonderful and for the most part very happy boys! Contrary to popular belief, I have not been "trying" for a girl. I am not only content having all boys but very, very HAPPY. In all reality, I hoped I would have all boys. At one time, I did have to come to God and pray about the unrealistic hope that I would have the "Perfect" family of one boy and one girl. This is not to say that there is anything wrong with that but more with my ungodly ideal. I hoped for a time that my second pregnancy was a girl but when my husband and I found out we were having a little boy I cheered so loud that the workers had to explain to the people at the Expo what just happened. (We were at a baby fair and after deciding we were too impatient to wait another three weeks for my ultrasound appointment we paid to find out the sex of our unborn baby then and wound up with an awesome looking picture of his face! We are a huge fan of the 3d ultra sound machines!!) Again with our third and fourth baby I was so loud with my excitement that I had people come into the room to check on me! Please do not take this the wrong way. I would have been just as happy having a girl. Babies are blessings whether they are male or female. While at times I am overwhelmed with my brood, I would not change anything nor do I wish I had a girl. I praise the Lord for his kindheartedness to let me raise these wonderful creations of His. I have been told by more than one person I am a boy’s mommy not a girl’s mommy. While the first time somebody said this, I am not sure I immediately agreed but after meditating on it and praying about it, I could not agree more. The Lord in His infinite generosity has blessed me with four wonderful boys and I am thanking him everyday for these blessings. So if you see me at Wal-Mart with my brood please if you are not offering help and do not have anything nice to say just keep on walking!!

2 comments:

Mommy2FIVEgirls said...

I couldn't have said it better!!!

Held Hostage By Boys said...

Just a little update, the friend I was talking about is having a boy! How is exciting is that? I cannot wait to see him.